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At the office...

Kandis and I just had a discussion about people at work who insist on using only the speaker phone when making a phone call to a colleague or client. These same people also tend to leave their office doors open while engaged in such a call, and are almost always the only person on their end of the line. What, then, do we make of a person who makes a call using speakerphone, and leaves their office door open so that other employees hear the contents of the call?

The initial response might be "An inconsiderate ass with a distorted sense of their importance". That might be correct in some -- or many -- instances, but I think there's more to it.

I used to use speakerphone when making calls. It made me feel important, and confident. Somehow, I felt like I had the upper hand in the conversation. Based on my limited observation, people like to feel to feel confident and important. What better way to say "Look at me! I'm self-assured, doing important things, and bossing people around", than by talking into a small device with little voices emanating from it, and broadcasting that conversation to the world?

Speakerphones are quite an odd way to go about achieving a feeling of self-importance, but considering we are a society that spends 40 or more hours per week in the office, our resources are limited. It's either the speakerphone, or abusing the cc: field when conducting business through e-mail. Take your pick.


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