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Gay marriage... get over it.

Here's a revolutionary thought for all of you folks out there to whom homosexuality is a big mystery: if you can be born a heterosexual, you can be born a homosexual or a bisexual. I am not an expert in science, much less genetics, but I personally believe that sexual preference is influenced by genetic factors, and is not a choice. I am attracted to females, not by choice or coersion, but simply because of my chemical and emotional responses to females who are particularly attractive, such as my wife :-) I could not one day decide that I am attracted to males, because my body is programmed to be attracted to females; I have no choice in that matter. I simply do not have a raw, physical, attraction to the male species.

Keeping the aforementioned in mind, the only reason left to deny gay marriage is bigotry. Marriage -- whether you believe it is a religious institution or simply a celebration of the love that two people share for one another -- should not be denied to any couple willing make the committment required by it. If you are religious, then you believe that God created every one of us. Isn't it worth considering for a moment that when God created humans, sexual orientation was one of the traits he applied to them? Is it then OK to question God's ways? Many Christians will argue that the Bible, which condemns homosexuality, is the word of God. Suggesting that God would design certain people to be attracted to the same gender, then, is a preposterous notion. There are more liberal Christians that might be able to, or already do, believe that what I've suggested is not out of the question.

For me, and others who believe as I do, the issue is much simpler. Love is one of the positive things we have going for us in this chaotic world right now. When two people choose to celebrate their love through marriage vows, we should honor and respect that. I eagerly await the day when gay marriage is no longer discussed, and is simply recognized, accepted, and embraced in the same way that "traditional" marriage is. I also look forward to the day when we have a presidential candidate who supports and embraces gay marriage, and has the courage to make his/her convictions public. Neither will happen in my lifetime, but I can hope for future generations, right?


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